Advising in a Different World
February 27, 2012

I always have to laugh the first day of classes. While other instructors scurry around the halls looking for their classrooms, I am able to walk directly to mine, for it is always the room from which the most noise is coming. There is no need for the get-to-know-your- classmates exercises that my colleagues who do not teach ESL contrive at the start of every semester. ESL students talk – loudly – to one another from day one.
Talk about different worlds.
Last summer I attended the NACADA Summer Institute (SI) as a team member from my community college. There were about 130 participants in this SI; about twenty were faculty members. Of those twenty faculty members, I was the sole ESL teacher. I asked a lot of questions, and I did a lot of listening. Once again, I was struck with the dissimilarities when it comes to ESL students.
Academic advisors, I was told, repeatedly pose this question to the student sitting across from their desk: “What do you want to do here?” The usual reply is “I don’t know.” But, when I address this question with my students, I have to preface it with this statement: “We are now going to have a discussion. I am going to ask the whole class a question. Do not shout out what you want to say. Raise your hand and I will call on you, one by one.”
ESL students have BIG plans. This semester I am teaching everyone from a future heart surgeon to a future auto mechanic. I have no doubt that these students have the ability and determination to make their dreams come true, but they will need an academic advisor to help them find their way.
Some of us may recall our own experiences with academic advising as a professor who helped put our schedules together and ensured that we took the right courses in order to graduate. Academic advisors do much more than that; my academic advisor helped me make one of the biggest decisions of my life.
After completing my freshman year, I did not feel connected to the college I was attending. I decided, as an English major, to do my sophomore year at a university in England. I felt connected there; in fact, I felt so connected that I remained in England for my junior year as well. At the close of my junior year abroad, I found a university stateside that would accept my freshman credits as well as the 60 credits I accumulated during my two years abroad – every one in English Literature.
Upon my arrival back in the states, I was scheduled to meet with an academic advisor to review my transcript and set up my schedule for my final year. The advisor asked me several questions: what were my plans after graduation? I don’t know. He pursued his line of questioning: when I graduated, would I be going back to England or staying in the States? I don’t know. There was a long hmmmm, as he considered my circumstances. He then wisely advised that I take some courses with the word “American” in the title. Together, we came up with Early American Literature, American Political Thought, and another A – Anthropology – because clearly I had an interest in different cultures.
That semester I read James Fennimore Cooper’s tale of pioneers immersed in the uniquely American experience of the Adirondacks in the early 1800s. As I worked my way through The Federalist Papers for my American Political Thought class, I began to understand the Constitution. This was all stitched together in Anthropology, which allowed me to step back and understand the origins and development of culture, and how cultural values are manifested in things like the Constitution. After graduation, I did not go back to England. Instead, I remained stateside and went on to become an ESL teacher.
My academic advisor saw that much more was at stake than just the completion of a degree. He saw a young woman who was lost between two shores; with his guiding wisdom I found the tools to make a decision that would impact the rest of my life.
Our students will make similar life-defining decisions as they transition from ESL classes into programs in which they will learn the skills that will enable them to reach their goals. This can be a complicated progression through the labyrinth of an institution of higher education as well as through the, at-times-impossible, challenge of crossing cultures. As their ESL teachers, we want them to be prepared. Academic advisors will not only assure that these students take the right courses; they also will be on stand-by to assist these students in making decisions that must be faced on this difficult road.
As much as there are dissimilarities between student groups, there are similarities between ESL teachers and academic advisors. As I watched these good people at Summer Institute devise Action Plans to take back to their campuses, I witnessed the same passion that I witness whenever I get together with my ESL colleagues. The critical role of academic advising is not understood nor appreciated enough by institutions of higher education. Academic advisors are trained professionals; they are ready. Trust me, academic advisors CAN and DO help our students solve some of life’s more complicated dilemmas.
Staying or Moving On
February 25, 2012
A few weeks ago, I was digging around a box of old pictures, looking for a certain one to send to a childhood friend to whom I owed a letter. I was looking for a picture of the two of us going into town on a summer’s day in 1965, she on her bicycle and me on a black pony. But in my search, I came across another picture I had forgotten about. This picture, taken the same summer, shows her father leading the same black pony by the bridle through the gates leading to the thatched white-washed cottage where he was raising his family. The pony is rigged to a cart which holds an overflowing bundle of freshly cut hay. On top of this bundle sits her uncle, her father’s brother, who in sitting there is keeping the bundle of hay in place. Bringing in the hay is no easy task. But from the smile on each of these men’s faces, there was also some pleasure on this fine summer’s day in the west of Ireland in 1965.
I have had this picture on my desk for a while now, as it brings me back to an old Ireland long gone, when boys, who were raised together on their father’s land, grew up to raise their own sons on the same land, working the same fields their father and grandfather had worked. Cousins grew up together on the same land their fathers knew as children, cousins whose Granny would be found in the comfy chair closest to the fire, whose mothers brought cheese sandwiches and flasks of hot tea at noon to the men working in the bog. Families – generations of people- who were and are as much part of a place as the fields, the bog, the gate leading into the house, and the house itself. This picture depicts a place and life so different from the many places I see when I look back on my own life.
I am someone, like many others I know, who has called numerous houses home – twelve to be exact. That would be twelve different doors to which I had the key, and when I entered, I thought - It is so good to be home! As a result, my memories do not reside in one place. Rather, each time I call up an event from my past, the story is framed by where in the world I was when, for example, my wallet was stolen (Amsterdam) the worst job I ever had ( grooming a feisty black stallion in England), the best teacher (Dr. Holiskey in Washington, DC) where my husband proposed to me (Florida) or where he was (in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean) when our second child was born, leaving me to drive myself to the nearest hospital in Virginia Beach, Virginia.
We make choices each day. Sometimes it is a small decision, such as choosing fish or chicken for dinner, while sometimes it is a big decision – to stay or move on. Either of these paths is difficult, as each has its own exclusive set of challenges. Tom and Paddy chose to stay, with the result of having the same people - family and friends- around them from cradle to grave. Clearly, I chose to move on, with the result of never seeing again so many people whom I have met, admired and come to know, with whom I have laughed and cried and loved along the way. This is, at times, heartrending. Perhaps this is why I gaze at Paddy and Tom and wonder what a life like that would have been like.
But perhaps this is also why, through the astonishing capabilities we now have with the Internet, Facebook, and Google, I have reconnected with this childhood friend to whom I could send that picture of the two of us setting off for town, she on a bike and me a pony, on that summer’s day that has been so closely held in my heart of memories ever since.
Catholic Bashing
February 20, 2012
I grew up in the Northeast, and attended a Catholic grammar school, high school, and even did one year at a Catholic college. When I married a sailor and became a Navy wife, I moved to the south. I had my first taste of being a member of the distinct majority to one of the minority when, at my first job in the south, the group of women I was talking to actually took a step back from me after my mentioning I had been to Mass over the weekend. In unison, they declared, in disbelief, You’re CATH-o-lic? I felt like I had two noses or something. Upon regaining my composure, I recall thinking to myself – “Oh, so THAT’s what that feels like.”
Over the years I have had a string of similar experiences. A single woman from one circle of friends became pregnant, but asked others not to tell me, as she feared my reaction – “Susan is a practicing Catholic, you know.” One fall, I joined a book discussion group that gathered on Wednesday evenings. When I arrived for the meeting in February, I had ashes on my forehead, as it was Ash Wednesday. The greeting that evening was “You mean some people still really DO that?” I was deeply humiliated that evening as I was asked to hold up my bangs so they could all have a good look.
Recently, I was shocked again while attending in a meeting of a professional organization a frustrated member complained that frequently she was unable to reach anyone by phone at their office. The meeting chairman responsed with an apology for this inconvenience, at which time the complaining party interrupted her to say “Now, it is not your fault: you don’t have to say you’re sorry. You’re not Catholic.” This, I believe, was a reference to the holy sacrament of confession where if one has sincere sorrow for one’s sins, one can be forgiven.
I teach international students at Old Dominion University. A couple of weeks ago, one of my students came into my office on a quiet afternoon. She is a practicing Muslim who is not completely robed, but she does cover her head. She explained that one of her teachers had used her prophet’s name, Mohammed, in a way that made her uneasy. She told me what a great teacher this professor was and that she had much respect for him. She explained, as best she could in her second language, that she knew in her heart that he would want to know if he had offended her, and he would also not want to offend any one else.
As I sat beside her and helped her edit the letter she had composed to this professor explaining her unease, I realized that this covered woman wears her ashes every day. Most certainly, this is not an easy task for a young woman in today’s world – and so far away from her own home. I understood then that the experiences I have had over the years regarding my faith had served me quite well. I knew right where my student was coming from, and because of this, I was able to help her.
And so I have come to realize that it is not necessarily a bad thing to get bashed around once in a while. Actually, I would have to say that it is important to know what that feels like, for it helps one to avoid –as best one can – the awful temptation to bash back. For it only needs to happen to you once to know that you wouldn’t want to put your worst enemy where that basher put you – and your faith – for that miserable moment.
Photo courtesy of Rosebud Baker
Live Ammunition Practice
February 15, 2012
At the close of last semester the graduate student who had been working part-time as a student services liaison for international students at Old Dominion University had to leave. The next semester she would be doing her practicum in teaching – real students in a real classroom – and she needed to put all her efforts into this challenge. Having worked with this young woman for about two years, there was no doubt in my mind but that she could walk into any classroom and teach effectively. She would approach that task with the same sense of professionalism and excellence with which she had done everything asked of her within the department. I suggested she did not really need a practicum, and she stared at me blankly. “Oh yes I do. I wouldn’t know what to do with real students.” That brought to my mind my memory of the first time I walked into a classroom to teach, and recalled how I had mustered what confidence I could from my own practicum experience.
Practicums are good ideas. You get to practice with the real thing but with the real pressure turned off. This way, when the real pressure is turned on, you can go about doing your job with confidence. This is why doctors do internships and lawyers clerk for judges. Why, even every graduate of Old Dominion University is guaranteed an internship in their discipline as part of their undergraduate experience. So could someone please tell me why a SECOND naval battle group from the United States of America is getting ready to deploy WITHOUT THEIR PRACTICUM?
When battle groups go to sea, they have no idea what they will be asked to do over the next six months. So they get ready for anything and everything that they are supposed to be able to do, should they be asked. And one of those things involves the handling and launching of live ammunition. This is very dangerous work. Let me give you an example of how easily something can go wrong in this scenario.
Back in the sixties, the jets were lined up on the flight deck of the aircraft carrier Forrestal off the coast of Vietnam. The jets were armed with live ammunition. A piece of support equipment, which carries heavy objects around the flight deck, was parked on the flight deck, with its engine running. The exhaust of the support equipment was hot; so hot it heated up a live missile loaded onto the nearest jet. The missile ignited, launching itself into an adjacent plane, in which sat the pilot, none other than John McCain.
134 sailors died in the multiple explosions that followed. Fuel-fed explosions. Ordinance explosions. Explosions all over the flight deck. Fathers died. Sons died. Brothers, cousins, real good friends – they all died.
Working with live ordinance is highly dangerous. Our men and women in uniform need to train with live ammunition so that the scene on the Forrestal I just tried to depict for you will never be repeated. Working with inert bombs just doesn’t do it. I believe that this is why John Warner, chairman of the Senate Armed Services Committee, refers to the administration’s plan to resume training on Vieques but with inert bombs as “half a loaf.”
The men and women who work on the flight decks of our carriers cannot wait for a referendum as late as 2002 by the people of Puerto Rico to decide if live bombs can be used on the training range in Vieques. The carrier Dwight D. Eisenhower leaves this month for a six month deployment. They are not combat ready as they did not get that much-needed practicum. The George Washington battle group, which will deploy in six months, is now beginning training to prepare for that next deployment. Fathers, mothers, sons, daughters, cousins, close friends, and good neighbors will all be working on those flight decks. Without their practicum.
It just ain’t right.
Valentine’s Day
February 14, 2012
Facebook says I have 54 friends while one of my Facebook friends has over 900 friends. 900? I do not even really have 54 friends! So it would appear that Facebook and I differ on the definition of a friend. I would not take on trying to define friend according to Facebook, as much fun as that could be. However, I did look up friend in my reliable old dictionary for a better grip on the word. A friend is somebody we trust and are fond of, someone of whom we think well and we are on good terms, or a friend is an ally – someone who is not an enemy.
The word itself comes to us from Middle English, frend, and that from Old English frēond , and back more to the Old High German friunt, and on to the Gothic frijōnds. Frijonds was originally the present participle of the verb frēogan, a form of the gothic word, frijōn. And frijon was the gothic verb to love, which is why I am writing about friendship on Valentine’s Day.
I certainly do not love my 56 Facebook friends. In fact, I can count on my fingers the friends whom I loved, have loved, and still love. I had one close friend in high school, with whom I have recently reunited, thanks to, you guessed it, Facebook. I had one close friend during those college years with whom I have also reunited, also thanks to the internet. As I age, I find that I treasure these friendships with my long-lost but much-loved friends.
Then, I married and had two sons. These three men were my only friends for a long time. But I had no choice. Let me explain. I was living in man-land, being the only woman in a small house with 1.75 baths (this shower was so small that if you dropped the soap, you could not keep your hair dry). To make matters worse, my husband, a sailor, would ROUTINELY leave me with the two boys for a six-month cruise with the US Navy. I had no time for women friends, but in retrospect, I badly needed one. But real friends, real friends, take time, and I rarely had enough time for a good haircut. As I recall, my hair grew very long as I continued to tie it, wet, (not a lot of bathroom time and when I managed to get in there, I dropped the soap) in a knot on the back of my head – for those twenty-or-so memorable and cherished- yes, cherished - years……
But as I reached my fifties and my sons grew up, I slowly emerged from man-land and was finally blessed with some woman friends – one also a mother of two boys, another a soul mate in Dublin. Another woman, a niece-turned-friend, resides closest to my heart. Perhaps that we share some genes as well as our unique friendship accounts for how very dear this gentle woman is to me.
Sometimes we have falling-outs with our friends. This has happened to me with my friends. As you may well imagine from my meager list, a falling out with one of my friends devastates me. In an honest friendship, conflicts cannot be avoided. But with age and time, I have recognized the urgency to move on from conflict to the much more important things in life – like taking a long walk on a beach or up a mountain together, the sharing of a meal or a pot of tea, or sending a truly thoughtful gift for no reason at all at all. With urgency, I say, for none of us knows what tomorrow may bring. Time has also taught me that lesson.
Friendship, for me, is fired in the commitment to be there. The best being there is taking a firm hold of my friend’s hand and being beside them – in spirit but so much better in the flesh- should one of these friends whom I loved, have loved, and still love, need me. My friends are these people I write about today, people whom I trust and am fond of, of whom I think well and with whom I am on good terms, my ally when the world seems against me. So if you call, and say you need me, I’ll be there. For the root of friendship is love, and I love you, my friend.
Arboretum
February 6, 2012

I remember the day this picture was taken. I was dressed by one of my older sisters, and left to play with a white kitten somewhere in the house till I was called into the den where the picture was to be taken. The photographer told me to lay my hand on my father’s knee, and I remember my father taking my hand in his, my smiling over at him as he smiled at me. But when I look at this picture now, what I remember most about that day is that I did not have a care in the whole wide world.
Thirty years later, I walked the oak-shaded sidewalk in front of this house holding my four-year-old son’s hand. We would head out from my mother’s house for the fifteen minute walk to Main Street, where we could get a bowl of Conrad’s home-made ice cream. The sidewalks which we followed to town were cracked and buckled, not so much from age as from the huge roots of those oak trees. My son would ask for the same stories each visit. About my best childhood friend who lived in the house across the street whose parents still live there. About the people next door who knew my family before I was born, and still live there. About climbing trees that were big when I was little whose very roots were now ripping up the sidewalk. He would sigh and dream aloud to me about what it would be like to grow up in such a place, where nobody moved, where Gram lived around the corner, where Aunt Reeny’s ear was a bike ride away, where cousins lived in the next town. And he would promise me and himself aloud, that when he grew up, he would raise his family in a place just like this. A place with strong and deep roots.
That was when I’d start to worry. A mother wants to give her children everything they wish for, especially aunts and uncles and cousins who love you unconditionally. But my life quite simply demanded that I be elsewhere, as it does for many nuclear families. At that point those oak trees seemed to come alive, like that scene in The Wizard of Oz, telling me in a deep oak-tree voice that I was making one big mistake. Nature simply did not intend for children to be raised like that.
It was soon after that walk ten years ago with my son that I began researching my family at the National Archives in Washington, D.C. I was equipped with a binder that held blank pieces of paper, ready to write it all down, very neatly, so my son could read, once he learned how to read, our family tree. Some family trees are all neat and tidy. I once knew a woman who had a formal picture of both her and her husband’s parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, and great-great grandparents. Each picture was a 5 x 7, framed in the same style frame, and hung in chronological order on the walls of the alcove leading to her dining room.
I discovered that my family’s history is not a series of 5 x 7 pictures hung in chronological order, nor does it lend itself to one of those geneological maps which depict a family as one tree with one set of roots. My binder of blank paper grew into a collection of stories about journeys, both external journeys and internal. For example, my father made an external journey to Ireland in 1965 to unearth his roots. Years before that, he had made an internal journey at a Paulist Noviatiate, which he entered in 1929 with the intent of becoming a priest. I was with my father in 1965, and I have vivid memories of Dad on his search for Irish roots. I was not with him at the Paulist Novitiate, but I have a collection of letters he received while he was there from his family and friends, letters which my father kept until he died, and which somehow found their way to me. These stories, and others, are what eventually found their way into my binder.
We have all made similar external and internal journeys. The stories of those who journeyed before me have enabled me to come to understand my ancestors as more than a name listed on the census in the National Archives and my parents as much more than Mom and Dad. And their stories have enabled me to understand my own journeys of which there have been so many. And in the end I realized that I have nothing to fear from those deep-rooted oak trees.
Arboretum: Part One
The Timber Trade Route: Ireland to Maine
On their own soil, the Irish had learned to survive without much wood. The Saxons had raped the countryside of its woods and groves centuries earlier. The people came to rely on the surrounding peat bogs for the fuel they needed, and they built their cottages using mud and stone for the walls. However, a family had to have at least one wooden beam of support over their heads. So rare were these beams that when families were being evicted from their homes in the early 1800′s, even the most miserly of landlords would allow the destitute family to carry this one beam of wood away with them. This was, for some, their only hope of ever having another roof over their heads.
For others, there was another source of hope. By 1830 every seaport village in the south and west of Ireland harbored vessels which set sail in the spring for the St. Lawrence Seaway. There was an abundance of wood along the banks of the St. Lawrence, and the merchants who owned these vessels prospered from this trade route. But a trade route works best if there is a two-way trade, and sending empty ships to the St. Lawrence to pick up timber did not make good business sense. So the merchants offered passage to the maritime provinces for fifteen shillings, which was far cheaper than the four or five pounds charged for passage to New York. Furthermore, the merchants offered immediate employment upon their arrival, as the immigrants would be paid to help load the ship with her new cargo. The merchants won through this arrangement; they now had cheap ballast for their empty ships and a guaranteed labor force on the other side. The Irish immigrants won in that they had cheap passage to a new world that offered more hope than the bleak horizon in Ireland.
But this employment lasted only through the summer. Then the young Irishman who had come to this new world to make a life for himself had a decision to make. He could go into the Canadian woods, clear some land, and begin to farm it. This was lonely and rough; rough he could handle, but the social instincts of the Irish do not lend themselves to such a solitary life. His other choice was to become a lumberman at one of the many lumber camps also back in the woods, where the workers would spend the winter harvesting the forests for the next spring’s shipment of timber. Here there was plenty of work for the men and plenty of companionship among the company houses supplied by their employer for their now young families.
Helen Hamlin, in her book Nine Mile Bridge, describes life in a lumber camp. Employed as a schoolteacher in the lumber camp called Churchill, she recalls such settlements as anything but a romantic log cabin colony under the shadows of great spruces. The shores of the ghostly lake in Churchill were lined with dri-ki, which were the bleached dead stumps of drowned trees. The houses in the settlement were identical - one and a half story company houses that had once, a long time ago, been painted white. There were few log cabins in the camp, a couple of woodsheds, outhouses, and pigsties. The boarding house for the bachelors was a long barracks-like building.
On a Sunday afternoon late in the fall, Hamlin relates that one of these settlements would be quiet. Doors would be let open to let in the late fall sunshine. Children would be playing outside – hopskotch and skipping rope. Boys would be in the mud pond on log rafts, falling in and climbing back up again. Men would stand around in small groups talking. some in suits and some in their lumberjack attire. Women would stand in the open doorways with their arms crossed under their aprons. On weekdays Churchill was a droning beehive – sleds being loaded for the faraway camps, the sawmill in full-buzzing swing, the air fragrant with freshly-sawed pine and spruce. Hammers pounded all day as the blacksmith repaired logging chains and made new sleds in preparation for the winter which was to come.
The long-timers in these camps in the maritime provinces were French Canadian. They spoke French. And if you didn’t speak French, you did not want to stay on too long as a lumberjack in the Maritime Provinces. Stories came back to the camps of others who had left for the States, where people spoke English, there was plenty of work , and the wages were high. So the young Irishman would work as a lumberjack until enough money had been saved to start the journey south. No ships were sailing south. There was only one way to get there, and that would be to walk.
Bernard Mclaughlin was one of these young men who had left Ireland during the potato famine. He left the ship he had come over on, and went to St. John, in Canada, where he met Mary Dulaharty, also an immigrant, but from Spain. They were married in St. John on August 16, 1825. Thousands of immigrants, mostly Irish, followed the coast of New Brunswick to Maine and continued along the trails and roads into New England. The McLaughlins followed the St. John River, and then up the Aroostook River, until they stopped at a logging camp in Aroostook County, Maine. Land this far north had only become part of the United States in 1838.
In 1840, Barney was 42 years old, and his wife, Mary, was 41years old. They now had six children, one daughter and five sons, since their marriage fifteen years ago in St.John, Canada. One can only imagine walking those riverside trails with your children in tow, looking for a good place to settle down. The McLaughlins would have heard stories about homesteaders in the West, who were given land to farm. Appealing to some immigrants, but not so much to the Irish, according to Marcus Hansen in his book on immigrants during this time period. The Irishman’s love of land was only equaled by his love of company. Tales of the prairies with distances without end, villages without a social life, and no churches of his faith compelled them to settle in New England.
So, somewhere between 1830 and 1840 , Barney McLaughlin and his family stopped walking and made a home out of a company house in Plymouth Grant, a logging community in Aroostook County, Maine. John Dorsey, another Irishman, was a local who was living near a place called Fort Fairfield, which was in the same vicinity as the logging community. John and his wife, Mary, were about the same age as Barney and Mary, and they also had a large family – three sons and two daughters. In 1840, the census-taker came into Plymouth Grant. The locals from the Fort Fairfield area as well as the lumberjacks formed a line to sign on with the census.. Only five men stood in line between John Dorsey, a local landowner, and Barney McLaughlin, a lumberjack.
Barney McLaughlin stayed at the lumber camp until 1843, when the area north of the Fort Fairfield area, which would come to be called Limestone, was opened for settlement. Barney was able to buy lots at $1.25 per acre, 50 cents of which was to paid in money, and the remainder by road labor. Barney took land at what would later come to be known “Four Corners”. Thier only neighbor, Andrew Phair, was about two miles away on the land he had purchased.
A survey of Limestone done by Rowe and Colby of Philadelphia in 1877 shows a great amount of activity in the area over the course of those thirty years. “Four Corners” is shown as the intersection of Caribou Road and Fort Fairfield Road. If you were to walk down the Fort Fairfield Road from the Caribou Road, you would have passed four farmhouses each of which held one of the now deceased Barney’s son’s families. James McLaughlin might have been sitting on his front porch, and he would have explained that he lived in his own house here behind him, with his wife Bridget, and their five children, all under the age of 10. He could have pointed out his brother John’s house, two doors down, where his brother lived with his wife Katherine. Across the street were two more brothers, George, who was 25, and Barney, who was 26. Between those two brothers there were four more young children, all under the age of 10. Then, he most likely would have pointed out a large parcel of land, and told you that it belongs to his sister, Catherine: this is the only lot on the survey map which is owned by a woman in 1877.
The census of 1880 shows these four families still living on the same road, the four brothers now in their forties and late thirties, and their children coming of age. Catherine’s lot of land is now where she lives with her brother George; the census suggests that his wife Margaret has died, leaving him 8 children to raise with his sister’s help. Next door is his brother Barney and his sister-in-law Susan, who are raising their 7 children. James is still across the street, with his wife Bridget, and their four children. Their oldest daughter, Ellen, is now living across the road with Barney and Susan to help with their family. Next door to James is John McLaughlin and his wife Katherine; they still have no children.
If you were to walk down the Fort Fairfield Road from the Caribou Road twenty years later in 1900, the first house on your right would still be George Mclaughlin’s place. Catherine, known by the children as Aunt Kit, has since left the farm; apparently she died on her way to California with a parson’s family. She would have been in her late thirties. Most of George’s children are gone, but for his sons, George who is 24 , Michael 21, and a daughter, Catherine 22. George Jr. might explain to you that next door lives his Uncle Barney, who is now 65. George might also explain to you that his Uncle Barney was named after his father, George’s grandfather, who was one of the first settlers of Limestone. George might go on to tell you that he works his father’s potato farm with his brother Mike. He would most likely tell you that the McLaughlin family has always farmed potatoes in Limestone.
In the fall of 1905, George McLaughlin Jr. – now 29 – saw an attractive young woman sitting on the front porch of the house across the road from his. Limestone was a small town, and George knew that the new school teacher who was from Fort Fairfield was boarding at his neighbor’s place. George walked across the road and introduced himself to this attractive young schoolteacher, Susie Dorsey. The next spring, Barney’s grandson, George, married John Dorsey’s great-granddaughter, Susie.
In 1900, Susie Dorsey had been a sixteen year-old girl living in Fort Fairfield, Maine. Her grandparents, Edward and Hannah, had raised seven children in Fort Fairfield. Susie had four uncles and two aunts in the small town. Uncle Edward was the town’s stable keeper, while her other uncles were farmers like her own father. All except for Uncle Miles, who listed his occupation as “capitalist” in the 1900 census: he was the only capitalist in a community whose members listed themselves as farmer, farm laborer, day laborer, servant, livery stable keeper, and town physician. Susie Dorsey had 22 cousins in the small town of Fort Fairfield, who were between the ages of 6 and 20. She could hardly walk through town without bumping into one of them. And the Dorseys held their heads just a little higher on the muddy main street of Fort Fairfield, or so the story goes, because of yet another story.
Susie’s great grandfather, John Dorsey. had come to this part of Maine around 1825. The story is that he emigrated from Ireland to England to work as a groom on the estate of some English lord. The lord’s lady, Lady Anne, fell deeply in love with this handsome sweet-talking groom, and they ran away together to the new world. Edward Dorsey, a descendant of this family line, wrote in 1977:
“John and Lady Ann Richardson Dorsey were of the first generation and settled at the mouth of Johnston’s Brook around 1820. By the way, John was a stablehand and groom, and from the information furnished by my late Dad, was quite a Ladie’s man. He was born in Westmeath County, Ireland and went to England where he was employed as a Groom for a family of nobility by the name of Richardson. He left hastily and secretly with the wife of Lord Richardson and came to Canada by boat and then settled in Fort Fairfield in 1820.
John did emigrate to England from Ireland, where he was born some time between 1790 and 1795. After serving as a private in the British Service until he was in his thirties, he received a military land grant, which was lot 107 near Andover, Maine. He did well there, for in 1840 he received another land grant closer to Fort Fairfield, which then became known as the Dorsey Road area. This was the same year he registered with the census at the logging community known as Plymouth Grant. Another document states that his wife, Mary Ann Richardson, was born in Condyle City (sp) in 1795 .
She was married before she met John Dorsey, and she had a son by her first marriage. This boy’s name was Robert, and Mary Anne Richardson brought Robert with her when she left England with John Dorsey. Robert was raised as John’s son, and eventually Robert married into another Fort Fairfield family. If Robert was the oldest son of an English Lord, he could have returned to England to claim his inheritance. But he did not.
This all leaves considerable doubt about the Lady Ann Richardson story – charming as it is. Why such stories exist gives an insight to our country in the last quarter of the twentieth century At that time there were happy diplomatic relations between the U.S. and England – so happy that the U.S. looked abroad for its standards, and England stood out as the best role model. This was most conspicuous in the cities where the daily press made a feature of English society news. However, this preoccupation with things from England reached far into our countryside. Knut Hamsun, a Norwegian novelist, was a self-proclaimed judge of artistic and cultural matters in the small Wisconsin village where he lived. However, he understood that his opinion counted for naught if an Englishman were present. The English newcomer established usages of tone through out society in the second half of that century. Perhaps Mary Ann, having been born in England, served such a function in the small community of Fort Fairfield, thus dubbing her Lady Ann. Susie Dorsey, her great-granddaughter, left Fort Fairfield when she was 21 to teach in a one-room schoolhouse in Limestone where half of her students spoke English and half of her students spoke French.
The census of 1910 shows George and Susie McLaughlin living in Limestone with one servant, Iva Seger, and one day
laborer, Henry Fischer. George’s Uncle William and Uncle Barney are still living on their farms, and two cousins,
William and Henry, are also running their own farms and raising a large brood of children. By 1920, George and Susie
have two young daughters, Eva and Bessie. In 1929 Bessie joined her older sister Eva in New York
City, where the two young women attended The College of Mount Saint Vincent. One day during her sophomore year
Bessie was walking towards Seton Hall, her dorm, when she saw two of her classmates, Anne and Helen O’Dea. Twin
sisters, they were standing near the doorway talking with a young man. I am not sure who asked for the introduction:.
I do know that Bessie was introduced to the twin’s brother, Arthur. They dated, fell in love, married and had seven
children in this order: Anna, Elizabeth, Arthur, Thomas, Maureen, Joseph, and me, whom my
mother named Susan Dorsey.
Arboretum continues on July 15.



